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Prerequisites for Healthy Relationships: Counting the Cost and Committing to Oneness

 

Prerequisites for Healthy Relationships: Counting the Cost and Committing to Oneness

"For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?" – Luke 14:28–30 (KSB)

   Healthy relationships do not happen by accident. They are built intentionally, with clarity and mutual commitment. Just as Scripture teaches us to count the cost before building a tower, relationships require thoughtful consideration before laying a foundation.

   In relationships, clarity and shared vision form the groundwork for connections that support abundant life. Before committing, there are three essential questions that must be answered honestly both for yourself and with the other person.

   First: Do you desire to be in a relationship? Some may prioritize career, education, healing, or personal growth. There is nothing wrong with that. However, confirming your genuine desire ensures alignment. Entering a relationship without readiness creates instability from the start.

   Second: Do you desire to be in a relationship with me? A person may want a relationship in general, yet not desire long-term commitment with a specific individual. Mutual desire is essential. One-sided intention cannot sustain oneness. Both hearts must be aligned in purpose and direction.

Representing clarity and mutual commitment.


   Third: Are you willing to do the work to make it happen? Relationships require effort communication, growth, forgiveness, patience, and support through challenges. Love is not merely a feeling; it is an ongoing commitment to nurture connection. Without willingness to invest, even the strongest attraction fades.

   These three questions apply equally to yourself and to the other person. A relationship flourishes only when both individuals desire a relationship, desire it with each other, and commit to the necessary work.

   This approach reflects spiritual oneness. There is only One Life expressing itself through many forms. When relationships are built on clarity, intention, and commitment, they mirror divine unity and invite harmony, fulfillment, and growth.

   By thoughtfully addressing these prerequisites desire for relationship, desire for each other, and willingness to do the work you create connections rooted in mutual readiness and dedication. Such relationships honor the highest and best, promoting love, growth, and sacred oneness.

📖 Reflection: Have you honestly answered these three questions for yourself before inviting someone else into your life?

💡 Action Step: Take time this week to journal your answers to the three prerequisite questions. Seek clarity before commitment.

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