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Relationships Require Maintenance, Not Autopilot Living

 

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Relationships Don’t Function on Autopilot: They Require Maintenance (Ephesians 5:26-27)

"This is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ and the church."  Ephesians 5:32 (KSB)

   In Ephesians 5, Paul gives us wise words for better living. Toward the end of the chapter, he begins speaking about relationships and what is required for them to be healthy and successful. He explains that we must realize we are members of one body. The mystery of Christ and the church reminds us that Christ is the head, and we are His body. Just as in marriage, where husband and wife are joined together, so we too must embrace our oneness in Christ.

   You cannot build a lasting, harmonious relationship if you see yourself as separate from others. Instead, recognize that the love of God is the glue that binds us together. Every man is my brother. Every woman is my sister. Every child is my child. Every person is my sibling. Just as families share DNA, we share the spiritual life of God, who is the one power and presence in the universe. His Spirit flows through us, reminding us that we are all one. Healthy relationships require us to see our unity with our neighbors, coworkers, classmates, and even those in authority. There is no separation between us and God, between us and good, or between us and one another. As Paul says, we are members of one body. Yet, he also reminds us that relationships require maintenance.

   Paul describes this as the “washing of water by the Word” to remove blemishes, spots, and wrinkles. In other words, our relationships whether with God or with people must be nurtured and cared for. Just as cars and appliances require maintenance to function properly, our relationships do too. They thrive when we invest in them with communication, quality time, encouragement, worship, thanksgiving, and fellowship with positive people. Without intentional care, even the most beautiful relationship can falter. Relationships do not function on autopilot; they need consistent maintenance to keep growing and thriving. This applies to our walk with God, our self-care, our friendships, our family ties, and our marriages.

   But Paul also emphasizes another element mystery. He says that while he speaks of marriage, ultimately he is pointing to the mystery of Christ and the church. Love itself carries a mystery. Even when frustrations arise, love endures. The greatest mystery of all is that the God who created the universe dwells within us. For years, many search for God everywhere, only to discover that He has been within them the entire time. So yes, relationships require maintenance. But they also need mystery something sacred that keeps love alive and the fire burning. Just as Christ’s love for the church is both practical and profound, so our relationships should be nurtured with care while honoring the mystery of love.

Wise Words for Better Living – Part 5 (Ephesians 5:32)

  • Members of one body
  • Maintenance – we all need it
  • Mystery – deeper meaning

📖 Reflection: How are you currently maintaining your most important relationships—with God, family, and friends?

💡 Action Step: Choose one relationship this week to intentionally invest in through prayer, communication, or quality time.

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